Date: 2018-01-12 20:49
The problem is you're messaging guys out of your league. Close your eyes and think of the perfect guy now open them. Would you as that perfect guy settle for you?
You seem sooo picky about age. You think you're "too good" for a woman because you're 5 or 6 years than her???? Maybe you don't know this, but biologically, women are about 6 years than the male physique. Given they have similar health and life styles.
And finally, if you want actual online dating advice - get an independent attractiveness rating, stop trying to punch above your weight and talk to her like she is a human being. At the very least, when you keep approaching women much hotter than you accept you will probably fail. And if she says no, or ignores you, move on.
It's not about being a "nice guy/wimp" or a "bad guy/masochist". It's about being a "good man", and it's incredibly hard to do I know I personally l fail most of the time.
It's like you're describing my experience on the dating sites. I sit down, think of witty things to write to guys, and I get nothing back. One evening, I read like 65 profiles, made custom messages that I felt were well thought out. Nothing. This is on both OKCupid and Match. I do have one guy on OkCupid though who likes to send me dick pics. He's finally blocked.
Men in the menopause period are bald, with big bellies, stupid mannerisms, with bow legs and pigeon toes. They've forgotten how to treat a woman or court her.
I am currently on Tinder, and have been for about a month. All of the messages I have received from men have been respectful so far. I'm not sure why, but I'm guessing it has something to do with how I wrote my profile, as well as the pictures I chose to show. My profile is pretty straight forward, without being bitchy. My pictures are tasteful, and there are also some that show I am pretty jacked. I swear that after I have become more buff, men have gotten a ton more respectful. Ridiculous, but true. And no, I don't think I'm special because I'm fit, it is just a physicality.
Then I get down to the decent messages. We chat. I have to ask where they live and work and I flag with them that they are my standard initial questions due to my situation. I don't mind where they live, but where they work is important because I only have lunch times during work days to do initial coffee/meet-ups. My daughter lives with me, but alternate weekends she is with her father. I don't want to commit my free weekends to anyone until I've met them first and have decided that I would like to progress. My free time is scarce so I'd like it to not go to waste.
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They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and that appears to be true. Scientists at Barts, the London School of Medicine, and The University of North Texas suggest that looking at other people’s online dating profiles, finding what catches your eye, and then mirroring the good aspects in your own profile will bring you success.